The gods dance, the goddesses fight, but our society still polices gender

When I was nine, my cousin Bikash danced at a Tihar gathering. It was Deusi-Bhailo night. The courtyard was alive with drums, and he moved the way boys are not supposed to move: loose-limbed, eyes closed, completely surrendered to the beat. The room applauded for about ten seconds. Then an uncle laughed and said, “Look